Being Condescending Toward Palin

We know that this is a blog about language and grammar, not politics, but we can stand it no longer. This nonsense about how difficult it will be for Senator Biden not to appear condescending to Governor Palin in this week’s vice presidential debate has to stop.

Nearly every single “news” programs on cable television (news is in quotes because these are not news but, at best, a combination of news and opinion) has extensively discussed the topic. How can Biden debate her and not sound condescending? How will he be perceived if he attacks her positions? It just goes on and on and on, day after day after day, as if guests and hosts were asked to lock their common sense in the dressing room before heading to the set.

The only reason that people are concerned about whether Biden will be viewed as being condescending to Palin is that there is a great deal of uncertainty about Palin’s qualifications to be vice president. That’s why people are concerned that Biden will look like a big, tough man bullying a poor, defenseless woman.

There has NEVER been any such discussion about Biden, Senator Barack Obama, or Senator John Edwards being condescending to Senator Hillary Clinton, nor should there have been. Did you ever hear a talking head saying before a debate, “How does Barack Obama talk to Clinton and not come off as condescending?” Clinton was running for president, just as they were. They were as respectful, or as disrespectful, to Clinton as they were to the other candidates; if anything, they were tougher on her because she was a serious candidate. She was their peer, not a little girl trying to do a man’s job.

The whole thing about Biden having to be careful to not be condescending toward Palin is because people, especially those on the political right, are concerned that Palin will look childish in comparison to Biden— not because she’s a woman, not because she’s younger, and not because she’s less experienced but because she may not be able to answer questions in an intelligent manner. So just to be sure, they’re making a preemptive strike so that if she doesn’t do well, they can distract attention from her lack of qualifications or preparation and shift the focus to Biden’s “condescension” toward her. Setting the stage in this way is, itself, what is condescending to Governor Palin. They, themselves, are implying by the very idea that Biden will be condescending that Palin will not be able to handle the debate. And, by the way, why is Senator Biden suddenly being characterized as condescending? Has this been a theme in his 30-plus years in Congress because this is all news to us. This seems to be something that the right-wing started as a preemptive strike, and it has shifted to a larger part of the media.

Remember, the woman is running for vice president, with a running mate who is in his 70s. There is a legitimate chance that she will be the president if she’s elected vice president. And we know very little about her. She has done, what, two interviews? And nothing she said in either has done anything to prove that she’s ready to be president–but they did raise very serious doubts about her knowledge on a whole host of important topics.

The only respectful thing to do–and something that is of vital importance to the country–is to treat her like any other vice presidential candidate. Maybe everyone, including her own Republican party, should give her a chance to either fail or succeed on her own.

Sherry and Paul

Up to More than the Limit

Many a late-night infomercial and women’s magazine hawk products that promise we can lose up to 50 pounds or more, save up to 100 dollars or more, and cut housework by up to 2 hours or more. I don’t buy it.

When you say up to, you’re putting a limit on it, saying that that’s as high as it will go. To say up to…… or more is bad grammar. You could say lose 50 pounds or more or save 100 dollars or more, but once you put up to on it, you’re saying that 50 pounds is as much as you can lose, and you can’t lose any more, and 100 dollars is as much as you can save, and you can’t save any more. That’s what up to means—it’s the farthest you can go, the most you can do, the highest you can climb. As I said before, it’s the limit—and you can’t have more than the limit.

Sherry

Published in: on September 30, 2008 at 9:04 am  Comments Off  
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One of Your Problems Is…

While we, especially Sherry, focus on common grammar errors, my book (Literally, the Best Language Book Ever) discusses words or phrases that should be avoided for other reasons. That brings me to any sentence that begins with the phrase One of your problems is…. Don’t ever say that unless you’re a psychiatrist, and a patient asks you for a diagnosis.

Seriously, no one likes to have his flaws brought to his attention, and besides, who are you to decide what problems another person has? Focus on your own problems, not someone else’s.

If a co-worker or member of your family is saying something that you believe is illogical, then tell the person why you think the statement is illogical, such as I think you need to consider how much money this is going to cost. Avoid, however, making general statements about the person’s approach, such as One of your problems is that you never think about how much things will cost. That’s not going to help with the specific situation, it’s probably not always accurate, and it’s going to sound condescending.

What amuses me most is when this statement is turned into a question, as in Do you know what one of your problems is? When people ask me, I say No, and I don’t want you to tell me.

–Paul

Published in: on September 29, 2008 at 7:21 am  Comments Off  
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Presidential Debate–Contrast in Style

The first presidential debate just ended, and we at languageandgrammar.com want to join the ranks of millions of bloggers who are currently penning posts about who won the debate.

It’s our opinion that the difference between the two candidates is as stark as it’s been between any two candidates in the history of the United States. We’re not endorsing either candidate–that’s not the purpose of the blog (and technically, we already did with an earlier post), but it’s clear that the difference between the candidates extends to their debating style.

Senator Obama clearly used a cerebral style of debating while Senator McCain employed a much more aggressive, almost physical style. Obama’s cerebral style matched his personality–he’s always been one to think about issues, calmly make decisions, and explain them thoroughly and completely. McCain’s more aggressive debating style also matched with his personality–reactionary and rash with a more simplified approach to issues.

The most striking difference between these two styles, according to the crack staff at languageandgrammar.com, was the manner in which McCain was often dismissive of and condescending toward Obama–an aggressive tactic indeed. McCain insisted on a couple of occasions that Obama “didn’t understand” this or that and half-heartedly laughed at Obama’s comments while making his own.

The differences are clear. What type of president do Americans want?

Published in: on September 26, 2008 at 10:20 pm  Comments (2)  
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See the Difference?

I seen (or he seen, she seen, you seen, they seen, or we seen) is substandard grammar. Do not use seen as the past tense of the verb to see. The past tense is saw, as in the old movie The Last Time I Saw Paris or the old song I Saw the Light. (The conjugation is I saw, you saw, he/she/it saw, we saw, you (plural) saw, they saw.)

Seen is the past participle of to see; it should be used with the auxiliary verb to have, as in My eyes have seen the glory… or He has seen the light. See?

Sherry

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Published in: on September 24, 2008 at 6:59 am  Comments Off  
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Pardon the Interruption

A recent Internet headline read Bear Interupts Live TV Broadcast. I had planned to read the article, but I got interrupted—and sidetracked—by that headline. If it had been possible, I would have interrupted the site editor before he or she posted the headline in order to correct the mistake, but of course, that wasn’t possible. The only thing that suffered interruption was my day—-since I spent too much time wondering how and why that obvious error was posted. Did the editor think that it was the correct spelling, or did he or she get interrupted while proofreading the article and then just forget about it?

I suppose that I should let it go since this happened several days ago, but once in a while, I still interrupt whatever I’m doing and reflect on yet another minor shortcoming of the information superhighway.

Sherry

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Published in: on September 22, 2008 at 7:32 am  Comments (2)  
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Sporting Errors

If you think that the monthly review of topics that we’ve covered is a thing of the past, then you’ve got another thing coming. In fact, that’s what I’m presently writing.

While politics separates us at times, sports often unites us together as we gather in our media rooms or man caves (rooms we seem to frequent a lot) and root for all of our teams to have a perfect 16-0 record. Sports goes acrossed political divides and collegiate rivalries (I graduated college many years ago) and gives us an opportunity to make a few snacks (try to avoid violating the two-second rule), avoid the world full of actual facts and overly hyped news coverage (Hurricane Ike coverage), and watch football on a Sunday afternoon.

That’s all well and good, but by Monday, the excitement of Friday will be long passed, and we will have to concern ourselves with the ordinary things of life, such as the weather forecast for the week and trying to save money.

–Paul

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Published in: on September 20, 2008 at 6:49 pm  Comments (3)  
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It’s Friday!

I might be incorrect since I don’t know him, but sports talkshow host Jim Rome strikes me as a person who isn’t obsessed with grammar rules. He’s articulate and communicates well; otherwise, he’d never have been successful in his field, but I doubt that grammar and language are of great concern to him. Even he, though, has at least one langauge pet peeve. One two recent Friday afternoon shows, he warned his callers to not respond with an It’s Friday when asked How are you. I believe he also said that he doesn’t want to hear that It’s Monday in response to How are you to start the week.

I couldn’t agree with him more. I know what point people are trying to make–they’re looking forward to the weekend, so they’re feeling good–but telling someone what day it is when asked how you are is illogical and annoying. I guess it makes sense if saying 34 miles per gallon in response to what kind of car do you drive makes sense to you. It also makes sense if you want to make the point that 5/7 of your life is wasted while you wait for the weekend. That’s always a good way to make a positive impression on people.

–Paul

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Published in: on September 18, 2008 at 8:50 pm  Comments Off  
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No One Ever Graduates College

It’s true. You can’t graduate a college—-or a high school—–or any other institution of learning. It isn’t possible.

The preferred usage of the verb graduate is the following: The local high school graduated 300 students this year or He was just graduated from college. The school, itself, is doing the graduating to the students, or the students were graduated by the school. This is its original usage.

For the past 300 years, the phrase was graduated from has been used as just graduated from, as in This year, 300 students graduated from the local high school.

Even more recently, usage has become more sloppy, with the preposition from being omitted, as in This year, 300 students graduated the local high school or I just graduated college. This is substandard grammatical construction—and it doesn’t make any sense.

I know that time is precious, and we’re all busy these days, but are we really so busy that we have to try to save time by cutting prepositions from our sentences? Say either I was graduated from school, The school graduated its students, or even I graduated from school, but not I graduated school.

Sherry

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Published in: on September 17, 2008 at 6:59 am  Comments Off  
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Actual Fact

A fact is something that exists; it’s reality or the truth.  It’s a fact that the collapse of banks is an indication of a very poor economy.

Actual is an adjective that is used to describe something as existing or being factual, such as The bank actually went bankrupt.

You may notice the repetition in the definitions, and our tendency to use the two words together, as in actual fact, is yet another redundancy in our language.

–Paul

Paul’s book–Literally, the Best Language Book Ever;

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Published in: on September 15, 2008 at 6:23 am  Comments Off  
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